If this is the first time you are coming across a piece of my content, then you. May now know that clubbing and everything with that scene that comes with it isn’t my thing. It never has been and while I like to remain open-minded, I doubt it ever will be.
There are a couple of reasons why, but I’m not going to get into all of them in this blog article. The main I am going to touch on is the fact I believe there are better ways to spend your time and money rather than going to a club to get pissed up, to wake up with a hangover, to regret it the following morning only to do it all over again the following weekend.
I just don’t get it.
And, while a few years ago I thought I was the ONLY person in the world who thought this way and had zero interest in clubbing, I now know I’m not the only person in the entire world and that way of thinking as well… kind of bonkers!!
So, in this blog post, I want to share with you a range of different things you can do instead of going clubbing. But, not any old things. Things that I believe will actually help you to grow and move forward in your life.
That’s not to say you can’t have time to “relax” or “play” and if you’re not aware I’m someone who is massively passionate about mixing your vocation with your passion and building a lifestyle where work is play and play is work. It’s a part of who you are.
I’ve got 10 things other than going clubbing to share with you so I better dive into them…
1. Start to Learn a New Skill
In particular, start to learn a new skill in an area/field that you’re interested in. There is no point (or I don’t believe there is) learning something that you have no interest in because when the going gets tough, and it’s quite likely when you’re learning new skills you’re just going to give up.
On average, it takes 10,000 hours to master a new skill and you aren’t going to learn whatever skill you want to learn by spending 5 to 6 maybe even 7 hours every Friday and Saturday night at a club. Something to think about, right?
2. Learn Something New
Now, what do I mean by “something” … instead of dedicating the 5 hours on a Friday night to learning a new skill, instead you dedicate it to learning something new about an area/field you’re interested in.
Let’s say you’re interested in space, you could research, learn and find out all crazy facts about space than will help you to pursue that interest. It will help you to develop your perspective (more on that later) and help you become more knowledgeable.
Now, I just want to take a quick break here, because you might be thinking, that sounds swell Luke but not the best way to spend my Friday or Saturday evenings. My reply to that would be to stop living for Friday and the weekend and it can be as boring or as fun as you want. If you have a group of friends, or family who are interested in the some of the same stuff as you or want to learn the same skills then you don’t have to do it on your own.
You could invite everyone around to yours and have a great time learning new skills and interesting things about the amazing planet we live on. Creativity here is key and in the long run, it will help you to grow and save you a ton of money which I know could go to better use.
Anyway, let’s get back to it…
3. Spend Time with Family
Some of my best memories are with my family and when they are gone, they are gone. Of course, you have to live your life, and sometimes family members might hold you back but that’s just because they love you and want to keep you safe. Instead of going clubbing, why not spend more time with your loved ones, developing relationships, reminiscing over old times and creating new memories together.
4. Spend Time with Friends (or Like-Minded People)
Not all your friends are going to be of a similar mindset to you. I know this too well. My old social circle was into the clubbing scene and like I mentioned I am not. This used to get me down, but then I started to connect with like-minded people and have amazing conversations with them that have helped me to change the way I think and live my life. Connect with people who inspire you to be better and pursue your goals, dreams, passions and unlock your true potential.
5. Go to (or even host) a virtual or in-person gathering
There are events, gatherings, masterminds and lots of other things happening online and offline that you can attend to meet like-minded people. And, if for some reason there isn’t with all the like-minded people you can now connect within the digital world we live in host your own event. The only thing stopping you Is you! And, who cares if for the first few only a couple of people show you. That could actually be a blessing in disguised as you want people who are only going to bring value and help others to grow.
6. Have Some Deep Meaning Conversations
Deep down, I always wanted to have some deep meaning conversation with my old social circle. It never quite happened. And, I have to take responsibility for that. Since connecting with more like-minded people (mostly virtual) the conversations I’ve had have been amazing and I would urge you to have these conversations as it can be amazing what you find out and where they go!
7. Watch an Educational TV Show
The only TV watch is football related (a huge passion of mine) and the odd series like Suits. I’m yet to find a TV show that is related to other things I am interested in like personal development etc. but using the space example again, I am sure you could find some TV shows to watch on space where you can learn a thing or two. I don’t recommend watching the news, or TV programs like Family Guy, etc. remember, where your attention goes energy flows so be mindful of the information you are absorbing.
8. Develop your Mindset and/or Perspective
Again, be careful of the things that you are absorbing and on a daily basis, multiple times per day I would advise you do things and take action that helps to develop your mindset and/or perspective.
Maybe, you’ll read a book, go for a walk, practice mindfulness or something else that flows y our boat. Instead of going to a club, with 100+ drunk (or nearly drunk) people spend it connecting with your inner self and developing your mind. In 5, 10 or 15+ years to come you won’t regret it.
9. Develop Your Vision
Now, for the average person who has done little or no personal development, this might be a tricky one to understand but we’ve all got to start somewhere and I actually love it when I sit down to visualise what I am working towards and growing my vision.
To start with this, I recommend getting a piece of paper and a pen, drawing 3 columns labelled “doing”, “being”, “having” and then brain dumping everything (in each other) of what is an ideal work you would be doing, who you would be and what you would be doing and the things you would have. This can be a good start to developing your vision.
10. Getting a Great Night’s Sleep
Last time, I checked most people get home from clubs at what…? 3 am? 4 am? 5 am? Sleep and a night of good quality sleep is one of the most important things to us as humans. Without it, we lack energy, are miserable and it can affect our long term health. Now, the odd night 3 am night is O.K but if you’re doing this every weekend, multiple times then in my option we have a problem.
I’m not trying to be boring, I’m trying to save people having regrets in 5, 10 or even in 15 year’s time. It’s fair to say most people in their late teens, twenties and early thirties go clubbing, which just happens to be the time where most of the decisions you make will either propel you or haunt you.
Of course, there are exceptions but so many people in this age demographic waste time, and then 15 years later have these huge regrets. In my opinion, it’s better to start on your personal development, self-discovery or call it to want you like journey when you are 18, 19 or 20 rather than 52,53,54 as come to that age you have a lot to catch up on.
Unfortunately, most young people don’t see it as I do which is another reason why I wanted to write this post but I do see more and more people come around to this way of thinking and that can only be a good thing, Not for me, but for them.
But, I’m also seeing people just go clubbing or out late-night drinking because they don’t want to be seen as boring. They go to fit in, they go because they lack direction and they go because they want the short-term pleasure that it brings and lack clarity on who they are!
If you are one of these people I hope I have shown you that if you that there are many other ways how you can spend your Friday and Saturday nights without having to waste hemp loads of money while damaging your health in the process and fitting into society.
At the end of the day, you have passions, interests, goals and dreams and unlimited potential inside of you waiting to be unleashed. My job is to help you make them happen, and I also hope this article has helped you to think a little different.
Until next time